How to avoid the BIG upset in your life

I wonder if you’ve heard of the ole cosmic 2 x 4; the cataclysmic event, the catastrophe, the upset you didn’t want to happen that turns your life upside down.  We’ve all had this happen to us at one time or another.  Mine came in the form of my husband’s affair.  Wow. That knocked me to my knees and kept me there for a pretty long while.

Did you know that these 2 x 4’s can be avoided?  Here’s how it works: the Universe, in all of its benevolence, sends little notices to you, lightly knocking on your door with a message that there’s something in your life that needs an adjustment.  Perhaps your relationship hasn’t gone so well for quite a while and you just keep hoping that somehow it will miraculously change.  Or you’re working yourself to death at your job, but haven’t done anything about it, or the persistent pain in your body hasn’t gone away.

When you get a light knock that says “time to change,” you can either take heed and act, or simply slam the door shut, and go your merry (or not so merry) way.  If you choose to ignore the first knock, rest assured there will be others, each one getting louder, more urgent and more painful than the last. Finally, if you’ve ignored all the signs, you get the ole cosmic 2 x 4, a huge bash on the head guaranteed to grab your attention and call you to action.

A painful event in your life is not a punishment from the Universe; rather, it’s meant to be a catalyst to move you forward.  The big event means that the change needs to happen sooner rather than later…like NOW.  Whatever that change is, it is essential to your happiness and well being.  Had you paid attention to the first signs, you could have avoided the earthquake, and thus traveled more gracefully through the necessary change.

Have you had something in your life that you’ve chosen to ignore?  Denial is a nifty mechanism that all of us sometimes use because we’re just not ready to face the truth.  And that’s really okay.  But too much denial for too long will inevitably lead to the painful bash on the head. Unless you enjoy being bludgeoned by a 2 x 4, it would behoove you to pay attention to the little warnings.  Life just doesn’t have to be as hard as we sometimes make it.

What do you think?  Have you experienced the cosmic 2 x 4? Are you aware that you ignored the little warnings all along the way?  I would love to hear from you.

Check out my book, The Affair: From Breakdown to Breakthrough, A Therapist’s Real-life Journey, for great tips and insights about finding peace and your internal wisdom.  You can buy it on Kindle worldwide from all Amazon websites, including


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