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Hello.  My name is Janice Bowles and I want to welcome you to my blog.  In this little corner of my world, I will be blogging about all facets of relationships, including what I consider to be a very different take on infidelity.

So what makes me an expert?  Well, I’m a therapist for one thing with many years of experience helping couples sort through their relationship quagmires.  For another, I have been in lots of different kinds of relationships:  casual dating (lots of it),  unmarried and living together, exclusive marriage, open marriage, no strings attached sexual relationships,  and now a committed relationship with my ex-spouse who had an affair when that definitely wasn’t a part of our agreement.  I have dumped people and been dumped; hurt people and been hurt.  I’ve run the gamut, and as I blog along, I will talk to you about all of it, hopefully giving you information that will stimulate your thought and help you to have something fresher, deeper, and more satisfying with your partner.  I really want your input as well.  Tell me about how you relate to the things I write, as well as about your own experiences in the relationship wars.  Let’s use this blog to learn from each other.

I will tell you this: the journey my husband and I took together was some kind of an adventure, one that I never would have initiated, but now that it’s over, I’m so glad it happened.  It helped us take a giant leap forward to the wonderful, loving, respectful partnership that we now enjoy.  I plan to write more books on this fascinating, maddening subject and am open to including some of your experiences and ideas as well.

Here is my first tip: don’t try to fit yourself into a relationship structure that doesn’t suit you and your partner just because it’s what society, or mom, or your best friend says you should do.  Explore, find what works best for you, and then give it your all.  You will never hear me say that one kind of relationship is better than another because I don’t believe that.  But I will say that having the courage to do it “your way” will definitely give you the most bang for your relationship buck. 

So have I piqued your interest?  I hope so.  And I want you to know that my very sincere hope in doing this blog is that my experience, both professional and personal, and the wisdom I’ve gained along the way will help you to have a deeper, better, more fun-filled relationship with your honey.  And I know your input about your own experiences and how you feel about what I write will certainly help me.  Thanks for logging onto my blog.  I’m eager to take this interesting journey with you.

Check out my book, The Affair: From Breakdown to Breakthrough, A Therapist’s Real-Life Journey on all Amazon websites worldwide (in both print and Kindle editions) or at Barnes and Noble. It’s a powerful story about my journey to the other side of my husband’s affair. If you want an overview of the book, which gives you lots of tips and insights about relationships, log onto my website, www.infidelityandaffairs.com.

What is good sex?  It’s really not very complicated.  Simply stated, good sex is when you both agree that it’s good.  In other words, you don’t have to perform certain positions from the book you just read, or do it  for some prescribed number of times   You just have to agree that whatever you do, however many times you do it, feels good and right to both of you.  That’s good sex.

It’s common for couples to focus on the orgasm as being the barometer of good sex.  But that negates many acts of love that could give them pleasure.  There is a difference between making love and having sex.  Here’s how I see the difference:

MAKING LOVE can happen even when you aren’t in bed.  Having a romantic dinner, flirting, laughing, having a heart-to-heart talk,  playing music and dancing together are forms of making love.  In bed, here’s what making love is:

  • Being aware.  Letting yourself feel and enjoy everything moment to moment.
  • Being physically tender–caressing, kissing, cuddling.
  • Saying what you want and expressing how good it feels (words or sounds) when you get it.
  • Asking what your partner wants and giving it to him/her, taking pleasure from the giving.
  • Combines being “turned on” with the feeling of love for your partner.
  • It may or may not culminate in intercourse and orgasm.

 

HAVING SEX is releasing sexual energy, but not being particularly intimate with your partner.  Here are some of its features:

  • Sometimes relies on outside stimulation to get turned on such as fantasies, sex toys, magazines, porn movies, etc.
  • The focus is on orgasm.
  • Talking, playing, laughing, touching, kissing, are often ignored or done mechanically so as to hurry up and get to the goal, ie, the orgasm.
  • Can leave you feeling empty or lonely inside.

Let me be clear, I think there is a place for both in a relationship.  Making love, however, is the act that enhances the relationship the most because it brings more closeness and intimacy.  If a relationship consists entirely of having sex, there is probably an intimacy problem.  Having sex exclusively can lead to feelings of emptiness, loneliness and dissatisfaction.

In my next post, I’ll talk about things for couples to do if one or both is dissatisfied because there is too much focus on orgasm.  Stay tuned…

Okay, you’ve been married for a while, then ooops, you discover that you’re really not cut out for marriage.  You love your spouse, but you feel that your marriage is getting in the way of your love.  You find the vows to be stifling, restricting, and rigid to the point that you can hardly feel love anymore.  When you try to talk about it with him/her, they are so threatened that the conversation goes nowhere.  You don’t want your relationship to end; you just want a different way of being together.

There are many people who find themselves in this predicament.

When it comes to relationships, one size doesn’t fit all.  We’re all unique with different histories, experiences, wounds and vulnerabilities so it’s ludicrous to think that we will all fit into the same structure.  So instead of just accepting the standard paradigm of what a relationship “should” be, then working to fit ourselves into it, we need to explore with our partners to find out how we want to be together.

Wouldn’t it be great to choose what works best for us rather than just accept what society, parents or friends want?  Imagine this: you’re in love, you want a commitment with this person.  After deep reflection and exploration, you and your sweetheart come to an agreement about how you want your relationship to work, keeping in mind that there’s no “right way.”  Just “your way.”

When deciding upon the agreement, you are honest and true to yourself; no one is coerced.  You set up parameters, then commit and give it your all.  If over time, you’ve grown and changed (hopefully) and your initial agreement no longer works,  you revisit it, and revise it to suit the people you have become rather than the people you once were.  An agreement means you have customized your relationship to suit who you uniquely are.  That way, there is a much better chance for happiness.

Open your mind, take it off the tunnel vision of marriage for a moment.  Honestly, don’t you think that having a relationship agreement, is better than trying to fit everyone into the same paradigm?  Thinking that the commitment of marriage is going to keep you happily together is a fallacy.  The divorce rate and rampant cheating proves that point.  Customizing your relationship, on the other hand, has a much better chance of success.

I’m not against marriage.  I know it works for some.  And if it works for you, then by all means, go for it.  Here’s the deal, anything the two of you agree upon is fine, including marriage.  What I’m advocating is choice rather than marriage being the automatic default.  We need flexibility in our relationships; rigidity breeds discontent.

Breaking free of the old way takes an open mind and courage.  There are many brave pioneers who have stepped out of the mold and are happily living in unconventional couplings.  You don’t hear much about them because they’re afraid of being judged.  I think that’s sad.  The vow, “until death do us part” just doesn’t work for everyone.  Witness the high divorce rate in first (50%), second (67%) and third (73%) marriages.  Not to mention rampant infidelity.

Why not take some time, explore options with your sweetheart and come to an agreement about the terms of your relationship.  If you can’t come to an agreement before you commit, that tells you a lot about the future of your relationship.  In the long run, the prognosis is probably not very good.  Oh, you might stay together out of pure obligation, but being happy?  That could be another story altogether.

Check out my book, The Affair: From Breakdown to Breakthrough, A Therapist’s Real-life Journey, for more great tips and insights about relationships. You can buy it worldwide from all Amazon websites (Kindle).

Therapy and/or counseling can be immensely valuable.  Self- awareness, after all, is the key to living a satisfying life with good relationships…romantic and otherwise.  Some of us have found the right therapist, have done our work, and are now living life applying the tools and principles we learned in our sessions.  This is what good therapy is about–teaching us to tune into ourselves and gain a level of awareness that serves us well.

When have you gotten all that you need from therapy?  Sometimes it’s not so easy to determine.  After all this business of growing is a life-time endeavor.  But do you need a therapist to hold your hand for the rest of your life?   Absolutely not.   Here is one example that signals it’s time to move on:

You’re a garden variety neurotic (aren’t we all?) who has been in weekly therapy  for 20 years (I actually met someone like that and he didn’t  plan on quitting!)  Whoa.  That’s way too long.  Surely by now, you have learned sufficient tools to get you out there to live you life.  If that hasn’t happened in 20 years, it’s not going to happen.  You need to stop being so dependent on your therapist, and gain confidence in yourself by making your own choices.

Will they always be good choices?  No.  You will make mistakes.  We all do.  But you know enough, if you would only trust it, to look inside and learn from your mistakes.  Growing doesn’t mean you’re perfect.  Growing simply means taking responsibility for yourself, examining your experiences (both good and bad), learning and moving forward with new wisdom.

So how much time is enough?  That’s a very individual thing.  You find out for yourself, by looking at your life, seeing if you are making progress, checking in regularly with your therapist to evaluate where you stand.  If you think you are ready to quit, and your therapist doesn’t, listen, but don’t automatically take their word for it.  Check in with your gut.  Does what they say feel right?  Or is some little voice inside telling you you need to be on your own to practice what you’ve learned. Sometimes a therapist needs you more than you need them.  Especially if their livelihood depends on it.  In that case, it’s up to you to cut the cord.

If, after quitting, you come up against something that throws you, by all means, see your therapist  for one or a few sessions to work very specifically on your challenge.  You can always go back to talk through a difficult situation without doing a weekly thing.  Trust yourself.  Ultimately, you know better than anyone what you need.

Check out my book, The Affair: From Breakdown to Breakthrough, A Therapist’s Real-life Journey, for more great tips and insights about relationships, and the therapy process. You can buy it worldwide from all Amazon websites (Kindle).

 

Wondering whether or not to commit?  Here are some points to consider before you do.  Answering these questions will help you make a better decision:

1)   Is he/she willing to deal with problems?   When everything is going great guns, it’s easy to be in love and think that you are compatible.  But what happens when challenges arise?  Is your prospective partner willing to directly deal with the challenge?  Or do they refuse to talk about it in order to come to an understanding, even if it’s agree to disagree?  Can he/she listen to your point of view with the intent to understand?  Or is it simply their way or the highway?  Is he/she flexible enough to compromise when you don’t see eye to eye?  Are they willing to admit when they’re wrong?

2)   Do they accept differences?  It’s great and necessary to share many things, but being with your clone makes for a boring relationship.  Having differences is a healthy thing.  It keeps things interesting.  Someone who professes to like everything you do is probably lying to you, or to him/herself, and will be filled with resentment if they don’t feel comfortable enough to truly be who they are.

3)  Does he/she have a life outside of your relationship?  If either of you makes the relationship all there is, it’s not going to work. No one person can totally fulfill another.  We all need friends, activities, etc., that stimulate us, and if he/she gives that up, or has never cultivated it, there will inevitably be problems.

4)   What is their past relationship history?  Not that you need to know every gory detail about their past, but you do need to know if this person has grown from the inevitable mistakes, or keeps repeating past destructive patterns.  You want someone who is willing to look at him/herself and grow with you.  Neither of you is perfect and perfection is not what you look for in a partner.  Instead seek out someone who is willing to grow with you.  Self-awareness is a huge part of having a successful relationship.

5)   Intimacy requires vulnerability.  Is he/she willing to show up and be seen?   Or is it like pulling teeth to find out what’s inside–how they’re thinking or feeling, what makes them tick.  Vulnerability is extremely important to a satisfying relationship.

6)   Last, but hardly least, is having a sense of humor.   Are they able to laugh at them-self?  Or do they take life and them-self so seriously that there’s no fun to be had.  Laughing, playing, having fun with each other makes the difference between a dull, boring relationship and one that sparkles.  How much laughter and fun is in your relationship?

Blindly committing before you really know a person is a sure-fire path to heartache.   Why not take the time to really get to know someone before you take the plunge?  The rewards will make you glad that you did.

For related information see: Is it time to move on?

Check out my book, The Affair: From Breakdown to Breakthrough, A Therapist’s Real-life Journey, for more great tips and insights about relationships. You can buy it worldwide on Kindle from all Amazon websites.

 

I once had a client who came to me after three “serious” relationships had ended in disaster.  She came armed with a long list of complaints about her former partners.  How they cheated on her, disrespected her, ignored her, etc. etc.  I asked her a question that completely stumped her–“How did you contribute to all that happened in these relationships?”  “What?  Me?  No, it was them!”  Wasn’t I listening to the horrible things they did that proved her point?

After each break-up, this person immediately jumped into another relationship.  No reflection.  No thinking about what happened.  No clue as to her part in creating what was.  She was the victim; they were the perpetrators.  End of story.  Unfortunately, she is not alone in this kind of thinking.  Many of us are so desperate after a break-up that we think the only solution is to find someone else pronto. Someone who, on the surface, is different from the one we just left.   But instead of someone different, after a short while, we discover that this new relationship is eerily similar to the old one.  Different name, different face, but essentially the same person we just got rid of.

Hopping from one relationship to another without taking the time to explore will inevitably lead to more heartache.  Without reflection about what happened and our part in creating what was, we are still flying blind.  We’ve learned nothing from our previous experience because we haven’t put in the time and energy to gain insights, to learn and grow so that next time we can choose better.  If  we’re the same, we’re going to choose the same.  It can’t be any other way.

Relationships give us the best opportunity to learn about ourselves.  They point up our growing edges–the places within that need our attention.  We need to find out why we do what we do.  What’s underneath the surface of our behaviors.  Why do we continually choose people who treat us badly, for example.  Or don’t listen to us. Or love us and leave us.  With insight into our self, we are much better equipped to find a better partner.  One who matches our new more conscious level of being.

The best single advice I can give after a break-up is this: TAKE SOME TIME TO REFLECT.  Don’t just blindly jump into another relationship because you are lonely.  Live without a partner for a while.  Notice yourself.  Ask questions (Big Breakup Mistake #3) Do your previous relationships have patterns?  What are they?  Do these patterns bring you satisfaction or hurt?

If you need help, get it.  Insight into yourself gives you power.  Without self awareness, you have no power to change the hurtful cycle you have created.  Yes, I said YOU have created.  Not what was done to you.  With awareness, you are not a victim!

It’s easy to blame and play the victim.  Then quickly move on.  Harder to take the time to learn about yourself–to admit your part in creating what happened.  Yes, it’s not easy.  But it’s exactly what it takes to finally have the loving, supportive relationship you crave and most certainly deserve.  I know you’ll find it’s well worth your effort.

Check out my book, The Affair: From Breakdown to Breakthrough, A Therapist’s Real-life Journey, for more great tips and insights about relationships.  You can buy it worldwide from all Amazon websites (Kindle).

 

 

 

 

 

Hopefully, you’re having a good day…a loving day.  Some of us are. But a lot of us aren’t!  Why?  Because there is so much hype around this day from people who want to sell  us something– chocolates, flowers, expensive dinners– that if we don’t get any of this, it’s easy to fall into depression.

My husband sent out a message today to everyone on his email list.  It was a quote from Byron Katie that says, “Your true nature is love.  There’s nothing you can do about it.”  It’s such a great quote I wanted to pass it onto you.  And how about my sweet husband?  Sending out that message of love made him feel so great!  And it touched me deeper than any “stuff” every could!

That’s the spirit of this day…to follow our true nature in whatever way suits us. So if you’ve fallen into depression because you’ve bought into the marketing hype, then “snap out of it!”  Instead of waiting for love to come to you, send out some love yourself.  I guarantee it will make you feel good.  AND here’s a bonus:  you will be planting future seeds for more love to come your way.  Worth a try?

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

Check out my book, The Affair: From Breakdown to Breakthrough, A Therapist’s Real-life Journey, for more great tips and insights about how to live a happier life.  You can read a synopsis of the book on my website, www.infidelityandaffairs.com and buy it worldwide from all Amazon websites (both print and Kindle) and Barnes and Noble.

Is something about your partner driving you crazy?  Have you tried to make them change by complaining, nudging, cajoling, pouting?  And still…no change?  I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “physician heal thyself.”  Well, the same principle applies in relationships.  In order to change your partner, you have to start with you.  Why is this true?  Because you are the only one you have control over, and when you change, oftentimes your partner will follow suit.

Here’s an example:  Joe is an introvert.  He doesn’t like to socialize.  He would rather he and Sally just do things together without other people around.  Truth be known, Joe feels very uncomfortable and fearful in social situations.  Small talk is just not his thing.  But what he does like is the great outdoors…fishing , nature hikes, swimming in the ocean.  He would love for Sally to join him in one of these activities, but she always says no.

Sally, on the other hand, is a very sociable person.  She loves dinner parties, hanging out with friends, doing activities with other people.  Fishing, hiking, swimming?  No way.  She’s not the athletic type.  Yoga in a nice comfortable studio is about as far as she goes.  Sally would love for Joe to join her when there’s a party.  But he steadfastly refuses.  Sally and Joe are locked into a pattern of fear and stubbornness and neither is willing to budge.   Although they love each other and have other interests in common, this impasse is putting a big strain on their relationship.

So what’s the solution?

One of them needs to change.  It could be either one, but let’s say it’s Joe.  What if, in the interest of harmony in the relationship and wanting more closeness with Sally, he gives in and goes to a party when Sally asks?  Although awkward, he does his best to be as pleasant and into the evening as possible.  If Joe were to do this, Sally would be surprised for sure, and most likely very appreciative of Joe’s effort.  This in turn could encourage her to go for a swim the next time Joe asks.  Then there is a domino effect: you did this for me, I’ll do that for you.

It may surprise you to learn that this works a lot of the time.  One person stretches beyond where they usually go, and the other is so grateful that they are willing to stretch as well.  Result?  They live a bigger life both individually and together.  Win win.

Changing yourself in order to change your partner is a simple solution to a common problem.  Simple, yes.  Easy, no since fear is involved and both partners have to go beyond their fear.  But if there is goodwill in the relationship, the desire to please the other becomes the impetus for change.

Is this a problem in your relationship?  If so, I hope you will be the one to initiate the change.  Both you and your partner will be happier as a result. Guaranteed!

Check out my book, The Affair: From Breakdown to Breakthrough, A Therapist’s Real-life Journey, for more great tips and insights about relationships. You can read a synopsis of the book on my website, www.infidelityandaffairs.com and buy it worldwide from all Amazon websites (both print and Kindle) and Barnes and Noble.

It doesn’t seem possible that something as simple as being thankful can profoundly transform your life.  It’s not something that most of us believe unless we experience it ourselves.  That was certainly true for me.  I kept hearing about gratitude and my response was, yeah, sure.  What have I got to be grateful for?  At the time, my life was turned upside down. I felt like scrambled eggs in a hot skillet.  But because I felt so bad, I was willing to try anything…even being grateful.

I began saying thank you for things I normally took for granted: my computer that gave me access to so much information, the refrigerator that kept my food cold and fresh, the clean, hot water that would pour out with only a twist of the faucet, the beautiful plant sitting in my living room, my eyes that enabled me to see, my ears that heard the sweet songs of birds, my strong legs and feet that got me around, my heart that beat steady without my even thinking about it.  And magically, when I gave thanks for even the smallest things, my mood would shift.  Sometimes only slightly, but a lot of times very profoundly.  I learned that you cannot be grateful and depressed at the same time.  A valuable lesson indeed.

Not only does gratitude change you in the moment, it plants the seeds for your future.  You’ve heard the saying, what you put out you get back.  Well, it’s true.  The universe acts like a boomerang.  Put out negative energy, and negativity is what you get back.  Put out positive energy, and the universe responds in kind.  When you are positive, you are watering the seeds that you’ve planted, and down the line, those seeds will blossom.  Don’t believe it?  Try it now.

Look around.  What do you see that you can be grateful for?  Your phone that keeps you connected to friends, your iPod that plays your favorite music, your house that shelters you from the weather, the colorful painting on your wall.  How do you feel?  A little better?  A lot better?

If you make being grateful a practice, something you do regularly, I guarantee you will be a happier person.  Gratitude, being of the highest energy vibration, is the key that unlocks a better life. I hope you try it.  Learn for yourself how powerful gratitude can be.  What could be simpler?

Thank you for reading my post. I am grateful  for you!

Check out my book, The Affair: From Breakdown to Breakthrough, A Therapist’s Real-life Journey, for more great tips and insights about living a better life. You can read a synopsis of the book on my website, www.infidelityandaffairs.com and buy it worldwide from all Amazon websites (both print and Kindle) and Barnes and Noble.

Laughing is magic!  It adds so much pleasure to your relationship and your life. Yet often we get so caught up in the seriousness of life that we forget to laugh and have fun.  You might be surprised to learn some of the things laughing can do for you:

  • Studies have found that a good belly laugh releases endorphins (chemicals that combat pain and depression) much like a jogger’s high.  So when you’re depressed or in pain, instead of reaching for the anti-depressant or pain killer, have a good laugh.  It’s cheaper and has no negative side-effects.
  • You’ve read how much exercise can do for you, right?  Well, there was a study which found that humor is equal to, maybe even superior to exercise in producing positive psychological changes.  How about that!
  • When you laugh, you’re in the present, which means you’re not worrying about the future or lamenting the past.  Now wouldn’t that be a relief.
  • Want more closeness with your partner?  Laughing and having fun together is a great way to achieve it.
  • Are power struggles ruining your relationship?  Try laughing to diffuse them.  It works!
  • Laughing at yourself when you do something stupid helps you not take yourself so seriously.  Come on…you’re not so bad!
  • Ever get overwhelmed by a problem?  Finding the funny side of it helps you meet the challenge in a more productive way.

If you have gotten away from having fun with your partner, here are some suggestions:

  • Take at least an hour a week and play together.  Do something you both enjoy…take a walk, play a board game, fire up some music and dance, turn on the CD player and sing.
  • Find the fun in everyday life: share things you both find funny like a comic strip that makes you laugh, watch your pet do outrageous things, share the hilarious thing your kid did or said.
  • Seek out entertainment that makes you laugh: rent funny movies, watch fun TV shows, go to the comedy store, see a funny play.
  • With all these benefits, don’t put “fun” on the back burner.  Make sure that laughing and playing is a big part of your life.  You’ll love the benefits they bring.

Check out my book, The Affair: From Breakdown to Breakthrough, A Therapist’s Real-life Journey, for more great tips and insights about relationships. You can read a synopsis of the book on my website, www.infidelityandaffairs.com and buy it worldwide from all Amazon websites (both print and Kindle) and Barnes and Noble.

When you’ve been with someone, loved them, lived through experiences with them, weathered a few storms together, it’s not easy to let go. Even if the relationship wasn’t all that great, you were comfortable, and now you’re facing the unknown.  Questions fly through your head: will you find someone better?  Will you be alone? Are you financially okay? Are your kids going to be all right?

Breakups shake us to our core, but you know what?…that’s not a bad thing.  In fact, the upheaval is a great opportunity for you to learn and grow if you make the effort to discover the lessons that are there for you.  The insights and wisdom you gain from consciously going through the process will move you to a better, more satisfying place.

How do you help yourself during this time?  You get active!  Getting through the chaos to the liberation on the other side takes effort.  First and foremost, explore yourself.  What was your part in creating what was?  Please don’t say it was all his/her fault.  That is never the case.  Both of you created your relationship, so rather than simply blaming which doesn’t help you grow, explore what you did to contribute to the problems and take responsibility. (see Want to be happy?  Stop Blaming!)

Here are more suggestions:

Talk to people who care about you. You need love,understanding and support, and these are the people who can give it to you.  They will help you smile, even laugh when you have forgotten that the sun still shines in your world.  Understand, though, that no matter what advice others may give you, even good friends, you need to check in with your own inner guidance to see if it feels right.  Meditation is a great way to do that.

Get professional help if you need it.  You may only need a session or two to get you started on the right track.  Or you might decide to explore yourself more deeply with a therapist.  A trained professional can be extremely helpful at this most vulnerable time.

Treat yourself well–exercise, eat healthy, do nice things for yourself.  Be sure to watch for critical thoughts. (see Are your thoughts ruining your life?) A brutal mind shellacking will only make things worse.  So, instead of beating yourself up, do your best to be kind and gentle with yourself.  (see The one good friend you need…yourself!)

Continue to live–see friends, do your daily activities, do a good job at work, with your kids, etc.  Make an effort to be in the present with all that you do. This will help you stay grounded.

Allow times when you feel like hiding under the covers and doing all the wrong things. You might schedule ten minutes  of negativity a day where you let off stream from what’s boiling inside–anger, meanness, depression. Express all of it, but when your scheduled time is up…STOP.  Allowing short periods of negativity will help you move forward.  Glossing over them means they remain toxic in your body, poisoning you  physically, spiritually and emotionally.

Find inspiration where you can: books, seminars, spiritual endeavors, walking in nature, petting your cat or dog, watching uplifting movies, talking with someone who has successfully gone through the same situation.  Inspiration gives us the courage to get through the hard stuff and reach for greater heights.

Finally, remember that this too shall pass. Be assured that you will feel good again.  Take the adversity and use it, not to your detriment, but for your benefit.  If you do, you might just look back and see the upheaval as one of the best things that ever happened to you.  Good luck and happy landing!

(For more tips on breakups, see Gaining power through a break-up)

Check out my book, The Affair: From Breakdown to Breakthrough, A Therapist’s Real-life Journey, to learn how my husband and I got through our crisis and made our bond stronger than ever.  You can read a synopsis of the book on my website, www.infidelityandaffairs.com and buy it worldwide from all Amazon websites (both print and Kindle) and Barnes and Noble.  The book also gives you great tips and insights on relationships, as well as how to deal with this painful circumstance.

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